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  • Writer's pictureJennifer Baker

Healing Your Inner Parts From Trauma

Walk toward your parts; they have something valuable to say. They are here to protect and help you-even though at times it may not feel that way.

We all have different parts within our psyche and personality. When trauma occurs, it impacts certain vulnerable inner parts.

Common wounded parts include:

- The Abandoned Child: Feels emotionally neglected or uncared for.

- The Angry Protector: Tries to defend you aggressively due to fear.

- The Fearful Child: Feels scared, helpless, and small.

- The People Pleaser: Seeks love through being perfect. Trauma can make these parts feel stuck in the past, continually re-experiencing painful emotions. Healing involves bringing compassion and resources to wounded parts. Useful approaches for you to use include:

- Providing a sense of safety - Parts feel secure opening up when safe. Create internal and external conditions where vulnerable parts can emerge without fear.

- Active listening - Let wounded parts fully express their feelings and needs without judgment

- Validation - Acknowledge the part's emotions make sense given their role and past trauma.

- Grieving - Help parts process sadness and loss from past betrayal or neglect. Inner dialogue - Have adult parts comfort child parts, set boundaries, and offer perspective.

- Integrating opposites - Build cooperation between extreme parts like the angry protector and abandoned child.

- Meeting unmet needs - Nurture parts through activities that fulfill their wishes. For example, connect with others to help the abandoned child feel cared about.

We act according to which part is most active in a situation, which can feel really confusing sometimes and perhaps even out of context. Difficulties happen when we over-identify with wounded parts like the inner critic or underidentify with resourceful parts like the nurturer. Imagine what you could accomplish if you practiced radical acceptance of your inner world!

Get to Know Your Inner Heroes

We also all have unique parts in our inner world that serve protective, essential roles. Learning about them, listening to them, and accepting what they have to offer brings self-compassion and healing.

The Protector: This part works hard to keep you safe from harm, both real and imagined. It alerts you to potential threats and helps you set boundaries. Thank this vigilant part for trying to defend you.

The Nurturer: The nurturer offers you warmth, care, and validation during tough times. It reminds you to practice self-care. Appreciate this source of kindness within you.

The Wise Guide: Your inner mentor provides clarity with a big-picture perspective on problems. It encourages learning from experiences. Listen to this part for insight.

The Inner Champion: This part motivates you to persist in the face of challenge. It believes in your strength and ability. Draw on its sense of empowerment.

Getting to know these inner heroes allows you to cultivate their qualities like compassion, courage, wisdom, and vision. Their voices guide you towards well-being and help you integrate your whole self.

In therapy, identifying the different parts allows integrating them for balance. Some ways to help integrate them include EMDR, Ego States, SE, or other parts work. It literally 'takes a village' to navigate the daily stressors, painful histories, or traumas in order to progress to the point of integration into your narrative.

You could gain more agency over your inner world as you get to know each part. Parts can also learn to work together rather than being in conflict.

Exploring your inner diversity provides self-understanding and emotional healing. All parts have value and deserve compassion. Therapy helps achieve an internal team working in harmony. With patience and compassion, you can help even your most wounded parts become sources of healing and wholeness.


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